Introduction

“I do not feel sixty.” This was one of the first comments Sunny made when asked to share some background about her life. Sunny is a remarkable individual who works as a professional in the social services sector. Recently, I had the privilege of visiting with her for my Voices series, and it was truly an honor to spend time with her as she reflected on her journey, her career, and her aspirations for the future. Here is what Sunny had to share about her experiences.

Early Work Experiences

When asked about the beginning of her working life, Sunny recalled, “I started work when I was fourteen years old. My mom told me to get a job and so I did; I began cleaning hotel rooms. When I was working, I didn’t have to take care of my siblings, and there was a swimming pool at the hotel. I was allowed to tan at the pool and I loved that.”

She also reflected on another early job, working at a gas station while she was pregnant. “My manager would call me late at night and harass me. It got bad enough that I was finally asked what could be done to make things right. I told them I wanted them to lay me off and pay my unemployment. They agreed and it was a nice break for me while I was pregnant.”

Career Reflections

Looking back on her career, Sunny observed, “It’s been good and bad, but it has made me who I am. I wish I would have had more confidence in myself. I wish I would have taken the time to do other things rather than just work. I also wish I would have chosen better friends when I was younger.”

Future Plans and Aspirations

When discussing her plans for the future, Sunny explained, “The way things are looking lately, I will be lucky to retire at sixty-seven. I want to be debt-free, except for my house and vehicle, when I retire. I would like to be able to travel more and see my kids when I retire. I want to build on my relationships with my kids and grandkids, and I want to make a difference in their lives. I love my job and I need the human connection that work gives me. I feel like I am still growing.”

Lessons Learned

Reflecting on what she now understands that she did not as a younger person, Sunny shared, “I realize now that my mom was human. I want my daughter to know parents are human and that we struggle and sometimes feel insecure. We make mistakes. I want the compassion and understanding that I have been able to give my own parents over time.”

“I trust in my religion and beliefs, and I’m confident I’ll be alright. The challenges I’ve faced haven’t made me a victim; instead, they’ve taught me humility and compassion.”